Numeric Response: For each of the following statements, decide which answer
best applies to you. Key the answer in the text box below the statement.
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To calculate your assertiveness style scores, refer back to the
responses you gave. Your Passiveness score is the sum of your answers to items 1, 4, 7,
10, 13, and 16. score. Put that number in the appropriate box at the end of the questionnaire.
Your Aggressiveness score is the total of your answers to items 2, 5, 8, 11, 14, and 17. Your
Assertiveness score is the total of your answers to items 3, 6, 9, 12, 15, and 18.
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I
respond with more modesty than I really feel when my work is complimented.
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2.
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If
people are rude, I will be rude right back.
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3.
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Other
people find me interesting.
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4.
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I
find it difficult to speak in a group of strangers.
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5.
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I
don’t mind using sarcasm if it helps me make a point.
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6.
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I ask
for a raise when I feel I really deserve it.
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7.
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If
others interrupt me when I am talking, I suffer in silence.
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8.
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If
people criticize my work. I find a way to make them back down.
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9.
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I can
express pride in my accomplishments without being boastful.
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10.
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People take advantage of me.
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11.
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I
tell people what they want to hear if it helps me get what I want.
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12.
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I
find it easy to ask for help.
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13.
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I
lend things to others even when I don’t really want to.
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14.
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I win
arguments by dominating the discussion.
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15.
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I can
express my true feelings to someone I really care for.
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16.
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When
I feel angry with other people, I bottle it up rather than express it.
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17.
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When
I criticize someone else’s work, they get mad.
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18.
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I
feel confident in my ability to stand up for my rights.
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Sum up your scores and put them in the appropriate boxes that
follow.
Your score in each box will range between 6 and 24.
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19.
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Passive score:_____.
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20.
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Aggressive score:_____.
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21.
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Assertive Score: ______.
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Interpreting Your Scores
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A high Passive score
indicates an unwillingness to confront problems. You're likely to be perceived as a wimp who can be
bullied by others. Your desire to please other people also could result in your being viewed as
inconsistent. In an effort to please everyone, the passive person might please no one. However, a
high Aggressiveness score causes equally troublesome problems. In this case, you're likely to be seen
as "the little dictator." Your desire to take command and dominate others often is
interpreted as pushiness. Excessive passiveness and excessive aggressiveness negatively affect
interpersonal relations.
The higher your
Assertiveness score is, the more open and self-expressive you are. You confront issues in a
straightforward manner. You say what you mean, but you're not rude or thoughtless. You're sensitive
to the needs of others and receptive to what they have to say. Generally speaking, assertiveness is a
desirable quality in that it tends to facilitate effective interpersonal
relations.
If, for example, you
score low on assertiveness and high on aggressiveness, recognize how you are likely to be perceived
by others. When you sit down to set goals jointly with an employee, you'll need to work extra hard to
sublimate your desire to control the goal-setting session and impose your standards on the employee.
The first step toward being open and effective in your interpersonal relations is to know your
strengths and limitations. (Training in Interpersonal Skills)
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